Breaking up is hard to do. Well, it’s not really that hard, but it sure feels like it at the time.
You go through all of the stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance. It feels like there’s no way to get through it – but there is.
Just follow my easy steps – the tramskrow method – and you’ll be over your ex in no time!
Acknowledge your feelings
Breakups are never easy. No matter who did the dumping, it’s always tough to come to terms with the fact that things just didn’t work out.
But there’s no need to wallow in misery – there are plenty of ways to get over a breakup and move on with your life. One method is known as the “tramskrow method.” This involves acknowledging your feelings, letting yourself grieve, and then focusing on rebuilding your life.
First, you need to accept that things are over and give yourself time to mourn the loss of the relationship. It’s okay to cry, eat ice cream, and watch romantic movies if that’s what you need to do. Next, start working on rebuilding your life.
Make plans for yourself, spend time with your friends and family, and focus on your career or education.
Finally, remember that you’re not alone – there are plenty of people who have gone through breakups and come out the other side. So take heart and know that you will too.
Getting over a breakup: The ultimate guide for men
Getting over a breakup: The ultimate guide for women
Don't jump into another relationship right away
Dear Men and Women. After a breakup, it’s normal to feel heartbroken and alone. You might feel like you’ll never find someone again.
But before you start dating someone new, it’s important to take some time for yourself. This is the time to reflect on what went wrong in your last relationship and to figure out what you want in a future partner.
If you rush into a new relationship without taking this time, you’re more likely to repeat the same mistakes. You might also find that you’re not really ready for a new relationship and that you need more time to heal.
So if you’ve just gone through a breakup, resist the temptation to jump into another relationship right away. Give yourself some time to heal and figure out what you want first.
Don't dwell on the past - focus on moving forward
It’s easy to dwell on the past after a breakup, especially if it was a long-term relationship. You might find yourself dwelling on all the happy memories and wondering what went wrong.
But ultimately, dwelling on the past is just going to hold you back from moving forward. Instead of dwelling on what might have been, focus on the future and what you want to achieve.
This doesn’t mean you need to forget about your past altogether – just don’t let it control your present or future. breakups are tough, but dwelling on them won’t make them any easier.
So focus on moving forward, and you’ll get through this tough time eventually.
Understand that it's going to take time - there's no magic cure for getting over a breakup
Ending a relationship is never easy, and it’s natural to want to find a way to speed up the process of getting over your ex.
Unfortunately, there’s no magic cure for a broken heart. Just like anything else in life, getting over a breakup takes time and patience. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you’re not feeling better overnight.
It’s important to allow yourself to grieve and feel all the hurt and pain that comes with the breakup. In time, those feelings will start to fade and you’ll be able to move on with your life.
Trying to force yourself to forget about your ex or bottle up your emotions will only make things worse in the long run.
So be patient, take things one day at a time, and eventually you’ll get through this tough time in your life.
Delete their number from your phone and unfollow them on social media
After a breakup, it can be hard to let go of the past. Every time you see your ex’s number pop up on your phone, or their photos appear in your feed, it can be a painful reminder of what you once had.
However, if you want to move on, it’s important to take some concrete steps to break ties with your ex. One of the best things you can do is delete their number from your phone and unfollow them on social media.
This will help to minimize the chances that you’ll run into them unexpectedly, and it will also help you to avoid stalking them online. Additionally, it’s a good idea to block them on any messaging apps that you use.
By taking these steps, you’ll be able to create some much-needed distance so that you can start the healing process.
Exercise and eat healthy to boost your mood
After a breakup, it’s easy to let yourself go. You might stop working out and start eating junk food, and before you know it, you’re in a slump.
If you want to get out of your funk, one of the best things you can do is to exercise and eat healthy. It sounds counterintuitive, but it works. When you work out, your body releases endorphins, which have mood-boosting effects.
And when you eat healthy foods, your body gets the nutrients it needs to function properly. As a result, you’ll start to feel better both physically and mentally.
So if you’re feeling down after a breakup, don’t forget to take care of yourself. Exercise and eating right will help you get back on track.
Avoid contact with your ex as much as possible
Breaking up is never easy, and it can be tempting to want to stay in contact with your ex. However, it’s often best to avoid contact as much as possible.
Continued contact can make it harder to move on, and it can also lead to unnecessary drama and heartache. If you find yourself running into your ex frequently, try to take a different route or go out at different times.
It’s also a good idea to unfollow them on social media and delete their number from your phone.
By taking these steps, you can help yourself move on from the relationship and start fresh.
Conclusion
So, there you have it! These are some of the best tips I’ve come across for getting over a breakup.
Of course, everyone is different and what works for one person might not work for another, so don’t hesitate to experiment until you find what helps you feel better.
If you have any other tips or advice that has worked for you, please share them in the comments below – I’d love to hear them.
And finally, remember that it takes time to get over a breakup – there’s no magic cure. Be patient and kind to yourself, and eventually, the pain will start to subside. If any of this resonates with you, please let me know in the comments and I’ll do my best to respond.
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Thank you so much whoever you are for your words of encouragement. I find your tips very useful and will be using them to help me. Thanks again.. Rick
I do too. I just got dumped basically ghosted by someone who said they loved me. I’m broken. I can’t eat. I feel so lost and homeless and just rejected. Thank you for your tips.
I hope your doing okay❤️That’s so tough. I’m getting through a break-up as well. Your not alone!
Me too 😞 blind sided after 3 years
Thank you. Unfortunately I will have to live I. Our home until I find another. Any suggestions
Try and focus on yourself. Try not to worry about what they are doing. The choices they make are a reflection of who they are as a person, not you. Don’t let them make you feel down.
Thank you for ur advise I needed it 😩
I have been getting over a break up for 5 months. It stopped hurting just a week ago but, he is in my thoughts everyday. I did delete him from my phone, because I would call him at random. He has no remorse. After 2 years he blew us up. I am trying to get better, move forward with my life. And I know one day, he will be a face I use to know.
I’t has been 9 months now and I am still missing him daily. While I have much going on, He is still on my mind because I love him deeply. He was just to afraid of change to actually make one. I guess I will just have to love him from a far while moving on. Losing my one true soulmate in life is the hardest thing ever. Thanks for the article
It’s so awful when you love someone deeply and the relationship ends . That’s my situation now . My ex boyfriend and I broke up 2 months ago after 3 years as we had become toxic together though most weekends since ,either myself or him makes contacts when out drinking and end up in bed and it’s the worst thing ever as we’re the same people and to see each other moving on with their life in between our hook ups hurts like nothing I’ve ever felt ,it’s horrendous . I’ve blocked and deleted his number and will focus on moving forward .My god it’s painful but I’ve no choice if I want to keep my sanity.
Hugs.
Going through same myself.
It’s hard…I wish I could stop feeling like this.
I know we’ll get there…just wish it would hurry up!
Yeah in the same situation and feel absolutely and completely lost. The break ups never off my mind
Unexpectedly was dumped the other day. I’ve never felt this sorrowful over a relationship. It feels as if your heart is just being wrung out of all of the love and affection you once had for this human. In short, it sucks. People keep saying it will get better, but I’ve had no relief.
This is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through thus far in my 19 years of life. I’m not looking forward to what else this world has to throw at me.
It was meant to be especially at the age of 19. People keep saying it will get better because it WILL get better. You know the saying “What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger”..??? It’s a fact. This experience you are going through is only preparing and shaping you for your true soul mate. Believe it. You want to make him regret dumping you? Get sexier, leaner and wanted by more. Start getting in shape and get your mind right to loving yourself. Know that it’s HIS lost. Not yours. Remember that. Hopefully this helps.
I really wish it would hurry up. Heartbreaks are the worst
You hang in there Anna. There are many many more men to come. Grieve.. but know, your love life is just beginning ❤️
Thanks for the tips. In my case i finished my very long marriage, but my heart is broken even though I instigated the break But for my own self preservation i had to do it because, despite many many chances he just kept on breaking my heart. I cried myself to sleep most nights since feb 2022 until eventually I said no more . But the pain is dreadful.
Did you both ever seek marriage therapy?
I just got dumped yesterday.
I’m not surprised it end bc the past five months he was becoming a ghost. I just thought after 5 years it would happen differently.
My boyfriend of a year broke up with me yesterday. When we first started the relationship we promised to be friends but it just really sucks because now I will have to see him every day at school (in grade 11) and I really did love him. He is leaving for his mental health but I really don’t want him to go and talking to him rn is the only thing that has made me happy in the last 24 hours.
Things will get better as time goes. Everything you are going through right now is shaping and preparing you for your future soulmate. Your ex isn’t your soulmate. He is an experience. You’ll understand as you get older. Your heart and mind will move on as time goes. I hope this helps. 😎
Break ups suck.
the last thing he told me was to leave him alone. . .
Just replying that in my head and my heart feel so empty.
Im never gonna fall in love AGAIN!
Use that pain to improve yourself to make him regret. This may help. https://tramskrow.com/elementor-233/
My marriage ended after 14 yrs. I moved back home to Detroit and she lives in NC. This is by far the hardest thing I’ve been through in my life. I lost her because of mental health. I didn’t realize I was squeezing the life out of her until it was too late. I rushed into another relationship too soon and I didnt give myself time to mourn the loss of her.
Damn Omar. I’m sorry to hear that. 14 years is a long time. Its never impossible to win her back. May just take some time.
Do you have any kids? Most importantly you need to take care of yourself especially your mental health. I would recommend seeing a therapist.
You can still fix your home. You may have driven her away but you can still get her back. Maybe this will help. https://tramskrow.com/elementor-396/
I came out of a 20 yr relationship 5 years ago, thought I’d never find love again but amazing I did and stronger than ever and my soulmate BUT it was a sad 5 years which has finally ended. Every 3 months or so she would leave for various reasons some apparently my fault and some not. I would think it’s over only for her to contact me again months later to get back together well this pattern went on for a couple of years then she asked me to marry her. I thought she had finally grown up but no the next 3 years exactly the same on and off on and off every few months or so but I loved her so much I just kept taking her back but this time I’ve decided I’m worth more than this and I’ve had enough but the pain is unbearable even though you would think I would be used to it by now. I’ve never known a relationship like it and at my age 51 I’ve been there seen it done it but never seen or heard anything like this before. Fingers crossed I find love third time lucky I hope
My boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago and I’m really struggling. I could tell something wasn’t right the day before, so, so far I haven’t eaten in 3 days. I always lose my appetite when I am upset or anxious. He basically promised me the world, and out of the blue he ended it by phone call after being together half a year. I know that may not seem long but for me it felt like a life time. I’m so confused as to how someone can just switch so quickly. I’m not eating or sleeping and I’m crying continuously. Everything reminds me of him. I’m 28 and just want to have my life together. I really hope these tips are true, because I’m convinced I’ll never fall in love again.
Hey Charlotte… sorry to hear about your breakup. It’s another finished chapter in your life. I hope you picked up and learned some valuable lessons from the relationship because that is going to prepare you for your true love.
If your ex is between the ages 18 – 35, it’s possible that he isn’t happy where he is mentally, physically and financially. Maybe he is still figuring himself out so he feels out of place. It’s possible he lost attraction to you for a long time and didn’t know how to tell you? Etc….
Give it time tIll he reaches 35+ but in the meantime, work on yourself transforming to being the new you. Start going to the gym (very good for the heart and mind), take some fun cooking lessons (cooking is one of the best ways to release stress), change your wardrobe or home environment and understand that not every guy is like your ex. It usually takes a year to get over someone but it’s possible to get over someone in half a year.
Months and months later you will see changes and improvements in your life. You will feel better. Breathe better. Sleep better. And most of all, look sexier than before.
At 28, try seeking someone that is 35+ because most of them already know what they want, they got their ish together, they are mentally, physically and financially there. And they got there life figured out.
Here is a small guide for you. Check out this link.
https://tramskrow.com/guide-for-women/
Hope this helps. ❤️
Hi Charlotte, same thing happened to me and similar time frame together. He emailed me from overseas, and told me that he wasn’t in a good space to be in a relationship after initiating in with me for the previous 7 months. I’m 38 and laid so much trust and vulnerability out there. With you in this, try and eat something love. My appetite isn’t there either but I’m forcing to eat.
U will fall in love again Charl,,is soul mates jst around the corner,,I promise…..xx
I’ve been with someone for almost 20 years, who kept promising me that we’ll be a family. I’ve worked so hard for our relationship, eventually buying a house and now pregnant with a son on the way, and he’s now decided that he does not want to commit and would rather focus on his business than to get married like we planned to raise our child together. This is heartbreaking and I don’t know how to move forward and keep myself sane while being 5 months pregnant 🙁 if I only knew how I can move forward so I can concentrate on my pregnancy and raising my son as a single mother.
Hey I’m so sorry this is happening to you 🙁 I would suggest reaching out to family and possibly moving in with your mom or another family member during this time. You and your baby need all the support you can get right now especially since you have to deal with heartache on top of pregnancy which is already a big job. You’ve got this, focus on your health and babies and make sure you have supportive loving people surrounding you. You deserve it, your baby deserves it. Sending lots of love. -From one single mom to another❤️
My husband asked me second time he wants to leave, I dont make him happy, first time 3 years ago, he left for a trip and to think it trough, he came back saying he misses the home too much so we went to therapy and I thought we worked it out, now he is saying again he wants to look for his happiness, again he left for business trip and to think it though, I plan to tell him this time, he can go and be happy since I am not what he wants and this is killing me I am scared and so sad. Even though he is the one that wants to leave so bad, I feel like I am responsible for not making him happy and for not giving 3,4,5 chances. we are both 47 and have 2 girls 19/12. Is he crazy ?
It can be challenging to keep a relationship strong after 19 years, but it’s worth it if you want to stay together. If you find yourself arguing or nagging more than usual, try to step back and see the situation from your partner’s perspective. It’s also important to stay positive and avoid giving off negative energy. And finally, don’t forget to take care of yourself and stay fit – it’ll make you feel better and be more attractive to your partner. If you can cook, try making him his favorite meal once in a while. Little things like this can make a big difference in keeping your relationship happy and strong.
There is no doubt that therapy can be incredibly helpful. It provides a space to express our thoughts and feelings, and can help us to work through difficult experiences. However, it is also important to choose the right therapist for our needs. In my opinion, male therapists have a better understanding of the male perspective. They can provide insight into the unique challenges that men face, and can offer guidance on how to navigate these challenges. If you are considering therapy, I encourage you to speak with a male therapist. You may be surprised at how helpful they can be.
Hope that helps Olivia
I meet this amazing man who would do anything for me. I was really in love with him we even talked about having children together. We were together for 8 Months. I know it’s not very long but to me it felt like years. He was the best thing that has happened to me but I messed up. I disrespected him, insulted him and attacked him manhood in front of his best friend. He broke up with me that same day. I keep asking myself why did I do that? He hasn’t done anything wrong to deserve this, so why did I do it? I know I crossed a line I shouldn’t of and now he won’t take me back. Maybe it’s for the best. Maybe it’s a sign telling me I need to work on myself and be a better person from here on out.
There’s no excuse for disrespectful behavior, no matter what the circumstances may be. That kind of behavior only demonstrates low value and lack of self-control. If alcohol was involved, then that’s all the more reason to learn from the experience and make sure it doesn’t happen again. Cut back on the drinking and make better choices in the future. There’s no need to be ashamed or embarrassed – we all make mistakes. The important thing is to learn from them and move on.
My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me today and i am totally heartbroken but i hope these tips help me thanks for letting me know how to handle it
It’s tough waking up after a break-up. For a while, it feels like the world has ended. You think you will never find anyone else and that you made the biggest mistake of your life. But trust me, there is light at the end of the tunnel. This is a new chapter in your life Jhon and an opportunity for self-change. Use your heartbreak as motivation to become the best version of yourself. Work on your fitness, hygiene, grooming, and style. Become more successful and ambitious. Show her that you are the man she always wanted but could never have. The best part is that if you do all of this, you have a good chance of getting her back. So don’t wallow in your sorrows, use them as fuel to become the man you’ve always wanted to be.
Here.. This guide for men may help. click the link: https://tramskrow.com/guide-for-men/
Hope this helps Jhon…Best of luck
Due to my insecurities and jealousy , I broke with my boyfriend yesterday. I know I have to be blamed because of my trust issues but it’s not easy when someone lies to you or takes you to his work and completely ignores you.
Loads of issues according to him it was all in my head.
I’ve been trying to move on and looking after myself but is not easy , today I had a panick attack thinking what I have done wrong.
Hopefully, this pain it will go away soon
It can be difficult to move on from a past relationship, especially if it was an abusive one. It’s easy to feel like all men are the same, but that isn’t true. There are plenty of high-value older men out there who are mature and who have their lives together. These men would make great partners for you. I suggest you date them instead of younger men. But first, you should get some therapy to deal with your past. Once you’ve dealt with your baggage, you’ll be able to have healthy and fulfilling relationships. I hope this helps Ju. If you ever have any other questions, feel free to write me.
My son broke up with his girlfriend after nearly six years
I feel totally devastated she was like our daughter
My pain for her knowing how much she loved him and how heartbroken she is
I love my son dearly but just can’t seem to see past the hurt he’s caused
It can be difficult to watch our children make choices that we don’t agree with. We want them to be happy and safe, and it’s natural to want to protect them from pain. However, it’s important to remember that our children are individuals with their own lives to live. Just because something didn’t work out for us doesn’t mean it won’t work out for them. Our sons are capable of making their own decisions, and we need to trust their judgment. If he’s chosen to be alone for now, it’s likely because he believes it’s best for him. He may have his eye on a larger goal, and he knows that he needs to focus on that in order to achieve it. Whatever the reason, we need to respect his decision and support him through this time. It may be difficult, but ultimately it’s what’s best for him – and for his future family. Hope that helped.
My bf of 2 years broke up with me earlier this week. Reason being, he’s moved away after graduating and doesn’t do long distant relationships. He’s a lovely person, loving, caring, generous, etc, but a previous long distant relationship which ended badly because he had been badly hurt and bribed means that he is not prepared to try. I genuinely thought we would be ok, but he’s adamant that he sees no future with distance between us.
With previous relationship breakups, I’ve always found that I can get over the break up by being angry at the ex. With this one, he’s such a lovely person, I just haven’t got it in me to be angry at him. And to block him on social media and block his number would kill me. Heart is well and truly broken. We both said we are in it for the long haul, which I still am, but he’s not having it. Life isn’t good
My boyfriend of a year and a half just broke up with me. For the last two weeks he seemed off and i can read him like a book so always asked what’s wrong, in response I got “I’m just tired” “I just don’t feel great” “I’m just hanging” and that was it no explanation, and I trusted that was what was up. The day we broke up, I knew I had to get the real reason as to why he was feeling the way he was out. It was originally “I’m not happy and I don’t know why” partly because of our relationship. And then later on our relationship became the sole reason for his unhappiness. In his eyes there was nothing I could do, and our relationship wasn’t worth it anymore. Earlier in the day before our break up, he was talking what we were going to do for Christmas and about a holiday in June next year. Completely messing with my mind, making the break up seem so out the blue. I reached out once to ask after him and he was so blunt and that hurt, so now I have completely distanced! I am heart broken and miss that boy so much, but also worry about him. I’m stronger than I thought I would be, but I hate the wave of emotions right now, but also can’t get out of my head the thought of him moving on, as well as me when right now all I want is him and don’t want to consider anyone else.
It’s been nearly a year since I split from what I thought was my soul mate.
We were together for 2 years…
He put me through so much but I thought our bond to each other could withstand it…
I helped him get sober only for him to want different things…and that included a different girl that he jumped out of my bed into hers.
It’s been really rocky, including a stay in a mental health facility…
And still I can’t move on…
I know this is it now…I’m so incredibly heartbroken.
My boyfriend of 6 years just broke up with me. We had a small fight and be packed a 3rd of his stuff and moved out, left the state. Hes done this before and in 30 days he will be trying to talk. But i feel like this time is different. Im 29 years old and have never felt my heart hurt this much
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I just got dumped and we were together for 11 yrs. She meant so much to me…I hate this feeling I just want it to go away.
I see this person at work everyday. They led me on with words and texts. Constantly giving me compliments and saying sweet things to me till I was hooked. This was over a seven month time span. I fell for him. Then we got together one night. He had to be at work early the next day so we did not have much time together. Spent an hour together. Had sex. He never text me again. But finds me at work and waves hi. I can’t stand it. I can’t transfer. I can’t get away from him. So I don’t know how to get over him?
My girfriend left me 3 years before, but yesterday when i saw her l became very emotional, i call back her yesterday but she was not interested to talk me, she behave me like a dog,
Finally i desided to focus on studing.
Hey there Nabik. I hear you. Break ups can really hurt us emotionally. Before you can experience the relationship of your dreams, it’s important to focus on yourself – both emotionally and financially. If she isn’t interested in you, use that as motivation to become a high-value man- cultivate wealth & fitness. By developing these things by age 30 or older, attracting love becomes easier! Don’t let her snub make you feel like less than others – recognize what an opportunity it is to build something great for yourself first so relationships will be even more fulfilling when relationships come along! Hope this helps.
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My best friend, he recently had a Breakup but he is struggling to overcome it. He is not able to grieve also. He is still having the heart ache. He tries to overcome it but he misses her a lot. He wants to talk to her. But he says he doesnt want to beg for the love. He has anxious attachment with her. He feels very low. I really don’t know how to make him normal . and im worried about him and his health. He is not have food or drink water. Due to the inner pain he is vomiting whatever he eats. Can you please help me with this.
Hi Dharaniya,
I understand your concern for your friend, and it’s tough seeing someone struggle after a breakup. However, this could be a turning point for him. Encourage him to focus on self-improvement and reinvention. By hitting the gym, adopting healthier habits, and increasing his income, he can rebuild his confidence and attract better options. It may take time, but I’ve seen many men transform their lives this way. Stay supportive and encourage him to prioritize his well-being. He’ll emerge stronger and more resilient in the end. Let me know if you need further assistance.