You’ve been through the break-up, and you’re not quite sure what to do now that you’re single again.
It seems like everywhere you look, all your friends are in happy relationships or marriages, and you can’t help but feel left out.
Don’t worry – there’s still plenty of time for you to find someone great! In the meantime, here are a few tips on how to re-invent yourself and getting over your ex by upgrading to getting a better man.
Not just any better man. A high-value man.
Delete your ex's number and all pictures of the two of you together
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to how to get over someone, but if you’re looking for a place to start, you might want to try deleting your ex’s number and all the pictures of the two of you together.
It might seem like a small thing, but it can be really helpful in moving on. When you see their name pop up on your screen or their face in a photo, it can trigger all sorts of emotions, making it harder to move on.
But by taking those physical reminders out of your life, you’re helping to make it just that little bit easier. Plus, it feels pretty satisfying to hit that delete button.
So go ahead and give it a try – you might be surprised at how much better you feel.
Join a new gym and start working out - focus on building a better body
If you’re looking to get over a breakup, one of the best things you can do is start working out.
Not only will it help you to release all that built-up stress and tension, but it will also give you a chance to focus on building a better body.
And let’s be honest – who doesn’t want to look their best when they’re out on the dating scene?
Of course, going to the gym can be intimidating, especially if you’re not used to working out. But there’s no need to worry – just take things slowly and focus on enjoying the process.
After all, the journey is just as important as the destination. So go ahead and sign up for that gym membership – your future high-value boyfriend will thank you for it!
(HUGE BONUS TIP: Sign up for a boxing class. Trust me. All the anger and pain that you have are great ways to use as fuel to keep on going.)
Redecorate your apartment - change the color scheme, buy new furniture, and hang new artwork
When it comes to moving on from a relationship, everyone has their own process. For some, it might involve cutting off all contact with their ex and completely starting over.
Others might take a more gradual approach, slowly distancing themselves until they’re ready to move on. But no matter how you choose to handle a breakup, one thing is for sure: your apartment will probably need a little bit of a makeover.
After all, it’s likely full of memories of your past relationship.
So why not use this as an opportunity to redecorate and give your place a fresh start? You could change the color scheme, buy new furniture, and hang new artwork.
It might seem like a lot of work, but it’ll be worth it in the end when you have a beautiful space that you can truly call your own.
Start dating again but be selective about who you date - aim for men who are ambitious and have their lives together
After a break-up, it can be tempting to jump back into the dating pool as soon as possible. However, it’s important to take some time to heal first.
After all, you don’t want to end up in another heartbreak. So how do you know when you’re ready? For most people, it takes about two to three months to get over someone.
During this time, you should focus on taking care of yourself. Once you’re feeling better, start dating again but be selective about who you date.
Aim for men who are ambitious and have their lives together. These men are more likely to be emotionally stable and less likely to hurt you.
Of course, there’s no guarantee that you won’t get hurt again but dating with intention will help increase your chances of finding lasting love.
Talk to a therapist if the breakup is causing you significant distress
Breakups are never easy, but sometimes they can be especially tough to get over. If you find yourself struggling to move on after a breakup, it may be time to talk to a therapist.
A therapist can help you understand your feelings and give you coping strategies for dealing with the pain. They can also help you work through any lingering anger or resentment.
If you’re having trouble sleeping or eating, if you’re drinking too much, or if you’re struggling at work, these are all signs that the breakup is causing you significant distress. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help.
Talking to a therapist can make all the difference in how quickly and how well you recover from a breakup.
Understand that your ex is not the only man out there
Getting over a break-up is never easy. It can be hard to understand that the person you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with is no longer a part of it.
And, on top of that, it can be even harder to come to terms with the fact that you are now single and have to start dating again. The good news is that there are plenty of fish in the sea and that not all men are like your ex.
In fact, there are plenty of men out there who would love to date you. The key is to get back out there and start meeting new people.
Don’t dwell on your past relationship and don’t compare every man you meet to your ex. Give yourself some time to heal and then start fresh. You’ll find that there are plenty of good guys out there just waiting to meet you.
Stay positive and don't wallow in self-pity
Breakups are never easy, but it’s important to try to stay positive and not wallow in self-pity. The best way to get over a breakup is to keep yourself busy.
Go out with friends, take up a new hobby, or just make sure you’re staying active. It’s also important to talk about how you’re feeling and not bottle everything up.
Talk to a friend or family member, or even see a therapist if you’re feeling really down. And finally, don’t be afraid to give yourself some time to mourn the relationship.
It’s normal to feel sad and miss someone after a breakup, but eventually, you’ll start to feel better and be able to move on.
Tarot reading can help you heal after a breakup
If you’re struggling to get over your ex, a tarot reading can be a helpful way to gain some clarity and understanding.
The tarot can provide insights into your ex’s feelings and how they relate to you, as well as helping you to understand your own emotions.
In addition, the tarot can offer guidance on how to move forward after a breakup. By helping you to make peace with what has happened, the tarot can pave the way for a healthy, happy future.
If you’re feeling lost after a breakup, a tarot reading may be just what you need to help you heal and move on.
Conclusion
If you’re feeling lost and don’t know how to move on after a breakup, these tips may help. Of course, they aren’t a silver bullet and won’t work for everyone, but they’re worth giving a try.
Delete your ex’s number, join a new gym, redecorate your apartment – do whatever it takes to start moving on. And remember that your ex is not the only man out there. Stay positive and smile more; it’ll make the healing process go faster.
If you need more guidance or support than what I’ve provided here, please reach out for help. A tarot card reading can be really insightful and might give you some much-needed clarity during this tough time.
And be sure to let me know how they work out for you in the comments below!
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My bf and I were bffs for 12 years and started dating in Jan 2022. He professed his undying love and had me meet his family etc. all was fine except he insists on maintaining a friendship with an ex girlfriend. I got upset while
He was texing her Thursday. We argued and now he tefueee to speak with me. How crazy is a guy having an ex for a friend while having a girlfriend? I hate this
Sounds like there’s trust issues and you have a good reason to have it. Women love men that are in a relationship. Do you know their history? Who ended the relationship and why? Why was he texting her? Just to say Hi? It’s ok for a guy to maintain a friendship with an ex but there are boundaries. How would he feel if you’re still friends with your ex and you text him to say hi? You see the red flags. If he doesn’t like it and is doing that to you, you know what to do. Date men that are 35+ years older. More mature and more ready to settle down without any of the nonsense. Hope that helps.
Run
My ex an I recently Broke up nigga had whole baby and the nerve he don’t no more relationship with me he focusing on his future like nigga what 2 years plus relationships am talking about drop like bomb ladies guard your heart with blood of Jesus because them man yah a wicked karma is bitch
Most women make the mistake when it comes to choosing the right partner especially when it comes to making a child because they don’t understand men. Most women want to be with a high-value man that is able to provide, lead and take care of his family but women don’t understand men. Men under 35 shouldn’t be focused on dating or having kids till they have their ish together, have goals or making at least 10k a month. Men are usually trying to find themselves and goals right after high school. Young women need to focus on themselves on being a high value woman to find the right high value man to provide. Most of these high value men are 35 and older. They have plenty of options and they don’t want a woman with another man’s child. You having a child lowers your value. But it’s not the end of the world. Getting into the dating world is really hard especially if you have a child. Your ex obviously wants to focus on his future. Be his supporter. His cheerleader. His ride or die. Help him get to where he wants and needs to be so he can be the provider that he needs to be. There is still hope.
Work on yourself, stay fit, and learn a new skill that helps you be at peace such as cooking or painting. Let him focus on his future because, in the end, he has to be the provider he needs to be. He is the father of your child and he doesn’t have his ish together. Let him get it together so he can be the man he needs to be.
And you chasing guys in their 20s (im assuming he is in his 20s) still tryna figure out their life while you getting old waiting for them to grow up while you couldve been working on yourself this whole time.. look at life from different perspectives and work on fixing YOURSELF! Dont give up because you made some poor decisions in life, we all have! But that doesnt mean its the end of the world! You can still find happiness! Just change your outlook in life and do things differently! THATS WHAT MATTERS!! hope this helps Empress.
My bf was a very super nice, and sweet in person, but when its in texting he is kinda different person. Recently, I and my bf should live in different place, he lives with his brother, but we still work in the same company, so actually we still can meet, but I and my bf actually never talk or meet in the company cause I am afraid people going to judge us about our professionality and recently I and my bf rarely do texting and seem like he’s changed a lot since he’s living with his brother, and when I keep asking why, his response just “nothing happened” or “i am tired cause worked so hard”, but he keeps posting a lot of shit in his instagram. So, I decided to break up with my boyfriend, cause I feel so ignored, and his changed is so obvious.